What is lust or how do we determine if a desire is lustful?
READ: ‭‭1 Thessalonians‬ ‭4:3-7‬ ‭NIV  (Yes…right now!)

Let’s get at this first with a definition.  I have written a definition before saying that “sexual lust is wanting and using something or someone for own sexual desires without proper permission, position or concern for the person or object.”   But, I like John Piper’s definition as well where he gets to the very heart of it:

“Lust is a supreme disregard for God and people that fails to honor both with a desire that is otherwise meant for good.”

So to put it bluntly, sexual desire that does not take into account God’s desire for holiness, is evil in His eyes. Therefore if someone does not know God, their desires are going to be tainted and lacking at best or destructive at their worst.

How do we determine if something we desire with our life and body is leaning toward lust? As some may ask in another way, “so are all my physical desires for the opposite sex bad?” To help us filter this out we should ask ourself this great question:  Is this desire holy and honorable to God?   Similarly, does it have in view God’s design for that desire or is it purely selfish or dishonoring to another person?

So we have to get honest here and ask ourself another question: Do I want to live in love more than lust?

Know this…
Love wants to give more.  Lust wants to get more.
Love thinks of others first.  Lust thinks of self first.
Love is God-sighted.  Lust is self and near-sighted.

PRAY: Jesus I really need your help in this area.  If I’m honest, I feel like most of my desires are pretty selfish.  But I know desires can be good.  So please help me to grow in real love by giving me a vision of the way You see others.  I want to honor You by how I view, think about and treat others.  

For more on sexual lust and pornography go here.

Missions In Your Mess Up


What is that sin that you keep falling into? In what area of your life do you feel you have blown it so bad that you don’t see how any good can come out of it? Are you feeling hopeless with the depth of your sin or what others sins have done to you?

Take heart….because you are not alone. In fact God holds up one man in particular as “a man after His own heart” but yet he is known as one of the biggest screw-ups of all time too.

READ: Psalm 51:1-17

David commited two horrible sins. Namely sexual sin and murder. But, did you notice what he said? Consider these questions: Who did he say he sinned against? What did he ask God for? What was the attitude of his heart?

Beyond admitting his guilt and beyond a heart of repentance and humility, we see another amazing thing happen. It is interesting that in the midst of David’s horrible sin, there is a spirit of missions. David’s desire was for God to use his “mess up” to help other people to move out of the dark places and sin in their own lives. And because of David’s repentance and humility, he answers David prayer.

So can God use your “mess ups” and a sinner like you and me? You better believe it!

**Below is a link to a great audio clip that is from John Piper. If you are struggling in sexual sin (or any other for that matter), listen to the short clip and let it minister to your heart.**

Why Sex Is Not the Root of Sexual Sins (Episode 396) #askpastorjohn