Dating: Test Driving vs. Research

What would be your advice for someone your age that is in a serious relationship?

Mine would be: Stop “test driving” your girlfriend/boyfriend and do your RESEARCH FIRST!

Let me explain. For years I wanted to own a jeep. So, just before I turned 16, my dad and I were seriously considering helping me find a jeep to drive. However, the more we discussed best options for me, we decided a truck was better suited for me. It was way more practical because I needed a vehicle to help me run my lawn service throughout the year. And oh by the way…I loved that truck!

So what does that have to do with dating? Many students can get too emotionally or physically wrapped up with pursuing relationships with the opposite sex without thinking through important questions before it happens.

Do your research first!:

➡️ What is YOUR purpose in life? What kind of goals or dreams do you have? Does a relationship with a guy/girl fit in with those goals right now?

➡️ Do you really know…

  • Who you are first?
  • Your value & her/his value?
  • Your role as a man/woman? (see Ephesians 5:21-33)

Look what this verse says about you and your “crushes” value according to God…

“For You created my inmost being; You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
‭‭Psalm‬ ‭139:13-14‬ ‭NIV‬‬

If you have received Jesus in your heart it goes even further!…

“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭6:19-20‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Do you value and honor that guy or girl you are dating (or want to date) the way God does?

PRAY: God thank You for showing me how You see me and the opposite sex. I don’t want to be a person that takes advantage or becomes too infatuated with someone before I really know how to love them the way You would want. Help me to be patient and to take steps into discovering more of how You want me to grow as a young man/woman.

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